Birdnesting is a type of post-divorce arrangement that has gained popularity in recent years. The term is derived from the behavior of birds who take turns caring for their hatchlings. In the context of parenting time, it means children remain in the family home while the parents rotate in and out on a schedule. The arrangement allows children to maintain stability in their living environment, school, and social life, which can be significantly disrupted during a typical divorce process.

Among the advantages of birdnesting is continuity for the children. Keeping the family home intact can provide children with a sense of security during an otherwise tumultuous time. Not having to shuttle between two households can help preserve children's routines, such as school activities, friendships and extracurricular engagements, and spare them the stress of adapting to new neighborhoods and schools.

However, birdnesting is not without its hurdles. One of them is the need for exceptional communication and cooperation between the parents. Since the arrangement involves maintaining one household and possibly additional living spaces for the parents, it requires a high level of coordination and flexibility. There are also financial implications, as the costs of maintaining the family home and additional living quarters for the parents can be substantial. If birdnesting is used as a transitional strategy rather than a long-term solution, it requires a plan for transitioning to a permanent custody arrangement.

Birdnesting can be emotionally challenging for parents as well. Sharing a common space, though not simultaneously, can lead to challenges in establishing boundaries and managing interactions in the post-divorce relationship. It can also delay the psychological separation process, which is essential to moving on after a divorce. For parents, managing personal lives discreetly while sharing the family home can be challenging and may lead to complications if new relationships develop.

Ultimately, whether birdnesting is the right choice depends on the circumstances and dynamics of the family involved. It requires a thorough assessment of the financial, emotional and practical feasibility of the arrangement. Parents considering this plan should be prepared to commit to open communication, cooperation and possibly seeking the help of a mediator or counselor. They should also seek guidance from an experienced parenting time attorney.

For families in Arizona considering birdnesting or other parenting time arrangements, Clark & Schloss Family Law, P.C., located in Scottsdale, offers capable and compassionate legal assistance. Call us at 602-789-3497 or contact us online to arrange a consultation.